We all want to be the very best homeschool mom and home educator as we can possibly be. Often times, we work long and hard after those educating hours are over. We search, we plan, and we schedule in order to provide the best curriculum that we can for our ever-growing children. Most of us have an idea in our minds of how we picture ourselves and our homeschool journey to be and many struggle to turn those ideas into a reality.
There are ways to unleash your full homeschool mom potential. However, instead of starting with a list of steps you need to take, it begins with accepting things that we often view as more negative factors.
We Are Imperfect.
For me, one of the hardest things about homeschooling my children is battling my own ideas of what the perfect homeschool setting should be like, as well as how I should perform as a home educator. I find that more often than none I am not living up to those ideas. Honestly, it took me awhile to come to terms with the fact that I am imperfect as a home educator and that is A-OKAY.
We hear so much that we should de-school our children before picking up homeschool (if your children have participated in the public school system). But what about us, as parents and home educators? I know for me, personally, I am in constant battle still with trying to avoid the “traditional” schooling techniques. For some time, I do well teaching in out-of-the-box ways and my children enjoy it. However, after some time passes, I find myself questioning the techniques that I am using and if they are adequate enough. After years of homeschooling my children, I notice that I am still de-schooling myself from a lifetime of what the public system showed me to be “normal” education.
Does this mean that I am failing or that I, as my children’s mother, is not qualified enough to educate my children? Of course not! I have accepted that this may always be a thought that I battle. However, I know that it is what keeps me on my toes; these thoughts and worries keep me always trying to improve myself and my techniques. They keep me striving to do better- to be a better teacher and provide the absolute best that I can. Because at the end of the day it is I who knows my children best and what works and does not work for each of them.
Homeschool Burnout Will Happen.
We have all been there, homeschool burnout gets the best of each of us. After all, we spend so much time planning, scheduling, and everything else that comes with homeschooling children. So it isn’t uncommon to get burned out. For myself, after three years of homeschool and feeling like I have things down (for the most part), I still experience homeschool burnout every year.
This used to be crushing to me because I would skip a few days of lessons just to gain my sanity back. I felt so guilty for doing this to my children. How could I let homeschool burnout do this to us? It took some time, but eventually I realized that homeschool burnout happens and it is OKAY.
When you accept that burnout can and will happen at some point, you open yourself up to being capable of getting through it without beating yourself up. This is very beneficial to a mom’s emotional health! You can take this time to relax your busy mind and regroup in order to start up again strong. This is the perfect time to remember that you are much more than a home educator and enjoy some well needed time for yourself and with your family. Embrace spontaneity.
There Is No Perfect Way To Teach.
What is perfect now will change later and when it does, don’t fight it. With change comes growth. Not just in your children, but in yourself as well. Homeschooling your children is a journey that offers so many growth opportunities for everyone. It requires trials and errors and at times it may feel like there are more errors than success and enjoyment. But that is the beauty of it.
Choosing to educate my children at home has allowed me the opportunity to really get to know them. I have learned what they like, how they learn, what they struggle with, and help them get through all of their obstacles. In fact, we all help each other get through our homeschool struggles- together. Isn’t that what we want? A true closeness with our children.
If I would have focused on all of the failures, on all of the wrong curriculum trials, and the useless plans that I worked so hard on that just didn’t work then I would have never discovered what did work and had the opportunity to enjoy the journey. I firmly believe that homeschool provides more than just education, and that is what is truly important.
Just don’t do it. I have met moms who seem to do it all and others who seem to do the bare minimum which has made me question everything that I have chosen to do with our family’s education. Then the questions quickly become worry and stress. It is just a horrible cycle that homeschool moms do not need to fall into.
What works for some will not work for you and your family. That is what makes homeschoolers unique- they get a genuine education that is full of love and tailored to their needs, desires, and personalities. So it is imperative that you embrace YOUR homeschool style and plans and only take from others what techniques your feel can be beneficial in improving your plans and never take so much from others that it takes away from what you know is best.
Unleashing your full homeschool mom potential begins with doing what is often difficult to do. But I promise that if you can achieve these four things then you are well on your way to being the best home educator that you can possibly be!